People-pleasing

 The Hidden roots of people-pleasing: Unravelling early childhood and small trauma

Did you know that that people-pleasing behavior often stems from early childhood experiences and can be traced back to what can be considered as small traumas? Well it does! The compulsion to please others and seek their approval often develops from the upbringing of being told to look and behave in a certain way. But here's the secret: Its entirely unnecessary. 

You know why?

The Truth about pleasing others

You might be wondering why its so unnecessary. Simple. Because everybody is occupied dealing with their own issues. Nobody got time to analyze or scrutinize your every action or question your choices including the times when you had to say "NO" for your opinion. People are wrapped up with their daily physical and emotional challenges.

And if at all you catch someone reacting to what's considered "non-pleasing" behavior its definitely not on you. Spend some quality time with them and you'll know you rarely crossed their mind instead they are likely going through some rough times and needed someone to lean on.

The Path to Personal Growth

So, accept the fundamental fact : people pleasing does not foster personal growth. On the other hand, being honest and candid with your opinions might open others minds and most importantly put you in a better place for yourself. By shedding that need to please, you will have one less matter to frown upon and can use that energy to a good purpose. 

So say good-bye to unnecessary worries and hello to a world of opportunity.